A salute to Military spouses, featuring Alecia Laudisio

With the holidays approaching, and my Dad (literally) on his way home for two weeks I can’t help but feel a pit in my stomach for all the other people who don’t get their loved one home over the holiday (my Dad is using an R&R to visit home for the holidays).  Through this blog I have been exposed to an entire community that I knew existed but never saw myself being a part of.  I am not a military spouse, just a daughter dealing with a year long civilian deployment of my Father.  However, between the blog and the people I’ve met and the stories I’ve shared, I know that I am more patriotic than ever and somehow feel connected within a community.

My Military Infographic post was probably one of my favorites, so I’ve decided to recreate it to salute Military spouses.  I’ve also interviewed a great girl, Alecia who is struggling to deal with her boyfriend’s absence, and included some of my favorite pieces of advice from the wonderful ladies I follow and share with you on my blogroll.

Here’s a run down of my favorite Military spouse facts:

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Infographic-Miitary Spouses

  •  80% of Military Wives are under the age of 35.  The average female age of marriage in the U.S. is 27, in 2011.
  • 5% of Military spouses are men.  I love this stat so much.  So many times Military spouses are assumed to be women, I just love that there’s a percentage of strong men who are supportive and proud of their wives and the career path they chose for themselves.
  • 3,000+ Military spouses have been widowed since the beginning of the War on Terror in 2001.
  • 85% of Military spouses want/need to work, 26% of them are unemployed.  This seems to be the biggest issue in Military spouses.  Due to frequent moving, too many obligations with children, and the employer having a larger interest in the soon to be home serviceman or woman, it is very difficult for Military spouses to find work.
  • Military families move over state lines 2.4 more times than the average American family, that’s two to three times a year.
  • 56% of active duty members are currently married.
  • 900,000 children across America have experienced the deployment of either one, or both parents, multiple times.
  • In 2011, the divorce rate of all Services’ peaked at only a little over 3.5%, which means Military divorces make up 0.0175%  out of the 50% divorce rate in America.

 

 

 

  • My first recommended blog, and post for that matter is Deployment Divas, Jessica Aycock reviews here her best possible way to coach fellow Military spouses through deployment.
DeploymentDivas.com

DeploymentDivas.com

  • The next blog is Daily Dwelling.  Monica’s entire blog is resourceful, helpful, and great advice.
DailyDwelling.com

DailyDwelling.com

  • The last blog I’m going to share is Real Warriors.  This blog will remind you that no matter the pain your feeling about missing someone you love, what they’re doing is much bigger than how you’re feeling.  It’s truly a great blog to learn about great stories and ways to help active duty members and vets.
Real Warriors

RealWarriors.net

 

Nick Turdo opens up about having a Father in Afghanistan

Since I’ve started this blog I’ve been very open about how I feel about my fathers absence in the last 5 months.  For this post I thought I’d ask someone who was raised in the same house, the same way, and is dealing with similar emotions for the same person.  My brother, Nick, agreed to sit for an interview to speak on the situation from a much different vantage point.  Though the answers are what you’d expect, they mean much more giving that emotions don’t flow as freely from this Turdo.

U.S. Military Statistics as an Inforgraphic

There are numbers we hear everyday about our troops.  How many are coming home, how many have to stay, how many kids will spend Christmas without a parent.  In this infographic I’ve created, I narrowed down what I found to be some of the most vital, shocking, and overlooked statistics about the U.S. Military.  We hear these numbers all the time, but sometimes we need to see them to really understand them.

  • Thank Your Veterans: There are currently 22.3 million veterans living in the United States.  California takes the number one spot with over 2 million.  (Department of Veteran Affairs)
  • Deployment Overseas: At the height of deployment in the middle east, over 300,000 soldiers were overseas.  Deployments have ranged from a high of over 1 million, to a low of only 200,000 in 1999.  (The Heritage Foundation)
  • Where they’ve been: There are roughly 200 countries in the world.  50 of them have been a home at one point to over 1,000 of our brave men and women.  (World Atlas)
  • Who are they: As if enlisting and shipping out isn’t brave enough, servicewomen take it a step further facing a 7:1 ratio.  Girl power. (United States Census)
  • At Your Service: Currently deployed, the U.S. Army takes the lead at 39%.  Air Force 24%, Navy 23%, Marine Corps 14%
  • Awaiting Homecoming: 31% of Marines, and almost half of the servicemen and women enlisted in the Army, Navy, and Air Force are parents.  (Military One Source; Department of Defense)

 

Military Infographic

Military Infographic

 

Philadelphia Eagles: Salute to Service

Throughout November, the NFL honors Veterans Day with 32 ‘salute to service’ games across the league.  For every point scored during one of these games the NFL donates $100 to the Pat Tillman Foundation, USO, and the Wounded Warrior Project.  The league donated around $800,000 during it’s first year of the program last year.

On November 17th, I was in attendance for the Philadelphia Eagles’ Salute to Service game agains the Washington Redskins.

Me standing with an actual U.S. Army Jeep on the main level of Lincoln Financial Field

Me standing with an actual U.S. Army Jeep on the main level of Lincoln Financial Field

The game began with five military members leading the team onto the field while holding their branch’s flag.  The national Anthem was sung by Generald Wilson, a retired Navy officer.  The Marines Silent Drill Platoon put on an amazing half time show, along with many recognitions and dedications throughout the game.

The Salute to Service was shown at breaks in every play.

The Salute to Service was shown at breaks in every play.

The Marines Silent Drill Platoon during their halftime show.

The Marines Silent Drill Platoon during their halftime show.

Philadelphia is known for their tough and passionate fans, this event was special to me for obvious reasons; yet it touched me due to the amount of respect that was shown for those being honored on this day.  No matter the circumstance, American’s are always proud and grateful for everything our Service women and men do for us.  It was amazing to see a city come together and appreciate what our country has.

The Eagles beat the Redskins 24-16, putting the donations just above $4,000.

 

SportsCenter Veteran’s Day Montage

With Veteran’s Day landing on a Monday, and me stuck at work behind a bar for 11 hours, there wasn’t much celebrating, or posting I could do.  It was around noon that I switched all the TV’s to ESPN’s daily broadcast of SportsCenter.  As the topics switched on the status bar on the left, I saw a topic I knew would be hitting me hard quickly approaching.  It was entitled “Coming Home”, a video montage of everything that makes me cry; sports, dads, homecomings, and little girls.

My first care package

I decided with Halloween just leaving us, and Thanksgiving right around the corner it’s about time I sent my Dad a care package.  I decided to mix the holidays together, with the understanding that it will probably not get to him until after Thanksgiving.

I first decided that with Halloween in mind, sending him a bag of his favorite candy was a must, even though he told me not to.  Along with candy I decided a Philadelphia favorite snack to remind him a bit of home.  I also got him a box of Cliff bars in his favorite flavor, just to even out the junk food.

Dad candy

cliff

Growing up my dad always had a stack of National Geographic magazines, although I know he prefers Business Week it’s a little hard to send a weekly magazine when you know it’ll be almost 2 months out of date by the time it gets there.  National Geographic is something I know he’ll enjoy.

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Lately I’ve been hearing from my dad how cold it’s gotten in Northern Afghanistan, about 50°, the same as our classic New Jersey fall.  I went to Target and picked up what I found to be a comfortable, yet sporty jacket that I know will keep him warm while away and when he comes home.  It’s a Champion jacket with a fleece inner-layer, cost around $40.00 and is great if you’re looking to send your loved one a sporty light jacket while he’s away.

jacket

I sent my dad two cards, one for Halloween and one for Thanksgiving, each describing in their own themed way how much I miss him during these times.  Fall in New Jersey is my favorite time of year, and more than ever I wish he was here to enjoy it with me.

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” Wish there were a magic spell that let us travel in one simple instant poof

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“Then i could wish you a Happy Halloween in person. Thinking of you from across the miles..”

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“Thanksgiving means..autumn skies, crisp clean air, bright leaves falling here and there, Pies are baking, meals prepared, warmth and hugs and laughter shared.”

thanksgiving inside

“But all those good things can’t replace just being with you face to face-And even though we’re far apart, please know you’re always close in heart!”
–“Dad, This Thanksgiving I’m thankful for you. I am grateful and proud of what you’re doing. I am grateful for the chance to speak to you as often as I can, and for your safe return home. Above all I’m grateful I have such a great Dad who I can call my friend. Love you, See you soon 🙂 Gina”

Last but not least, I had to include a couple of pictures.  My dad missed out on a family wedding in October, and although he saw all the pictures through Facebook, I included a few in the package.

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My brother, myself, my cousins Kristen, Noelle, and Michael

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My brother Nick and I

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Nick and his girlfriend Alison, my boyfriend Tony and I

I’m hoping my package reaches my Dad and touches his heart.  All of the things included were chosen to make him smile and look forward for his short return on December 20th.

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All care package items

Inside box

Items placed in box right before taping!

Maria Brasco shares her experience as a Marine Girlfriend

This week I sat down with Rowan student, Maria Brasco to speak to her on her experience as a Marine Girlfriend.  Maria is 21 and missing her boyfriend, Taj who is currently serving his final deployment as a Marine in Japan.  Maria shared with me the hardships of being away from the person you love, the obstacles they face as a couple, and what helps them going.

Maria and Taj Facetiming via iPhones to keep in touch

Maria and Taj Facetiming via iPhones to keep in touch

Maria Brasco, Rowan Student.

Maria Brasco, Rowan Student.

Maria sending Taj off in South Carolina

Maria sending Taj off in North Carolina

Taj's gift to Maria while deployed in Japan, a Alex and Ani USMC bracelet

Taj’s gift to Maria while deployed in Japan, a Alex and Ani USMC bracelet

Military Support Group of New Jersey

On Thursday October 10, I attended a support group in Blackwood, NJ for family members with loved ones away, veterans, and supporters.  When I walked into the American Legion Stetser-Lamartine Post 281 in Blackwood, NJ, I had no idea what I was about to encounter.

The Military Support Group of NJ is an organization that is ran by Rowan Alumn Karen Jennings, a Marine Mom that withstood the heartache of her son serving 3 times overseas with little communication each time.  She felt alone, and knew there were others that felt the same.  She decided to pour her heart and soul into the organization, making it what it is today.

Upon her arrival, Karen was bombarded with gift baskets, packaged goods, canned food, and toiletries all to be organized and sent off to their respective bases to go out to the men who need them the most.  “When you’re in the middle east a pop tart can taste like a steak”, I listened as Karen explained to me the methods and decision making behind care packages.  My favorite tip: never mix toiletries and food.  No one wants deodorant flavored mashed potatoes.

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Post 281

Post 281

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Items being organized for care packages.

Items being organized for care packages.

 

I highly encourage anyone in the area that is struggling or just interested in helping or meeting people with similar interests to attend the meetings and introduce yourself to these welcoming, wonderful people.

 

 

Chief of Staff, Steve Turdo shares on his military experience in Afghanistan

Since the start of this blog I’ve mentioned my Dad, Steve Turdo, numerous times.  My father has worked for the U.S. government for over 36 years in many different positions.  He has surrounded himself with the work he loves and with that has grown to expand is knowledge, experiences and even better himself through education.  He is a Rowan Alumn, gaining his bachelors in 2006 and is currently working towards his masters.

I’ve always been proud of the work ethic my father possesses and have tried to emulate the same in my own work. For as long as I can remember I’ve always thought my Dad had the coolest job.  Whenever I was asked what my dad does for a living I of course was honored to respond with “U.S. Department of Defense”.   That honor is now larger than ever, now that my answer has been replaced with “He manages DCMA employees on base in Northern Afghanistan”.

This weekend my dad had a full schedule of traveling, and assessing other bases.  He still found the opportunity to answer some questions I had for him via email about his position, experience so far, and expectations.  As proud as I am of everything he’s done, I’m even more proud to share it with others.

Stephen Turdo -- Bargam Airfield Base

Stephen Turdo — Bargam Airfield Base

Name: Stephen Turdo

Age: 55

Birthplace: Philadelphia, PA

Current Location: Bargam Airfield Base, in the Parwan Province, Afghanistan

Q. What is your position?

A. Defense Contract Management Agency Northern Afghanistan Chief of Staff

Q. How long have you been away from home?

A. Since June 29th, 2013.  I will return in May 2014.

Q. What do your daily duties consist of?

A. Day to day operations for a command of about 70 people, workload balancing, supervisor and personnel issues for about 30 civilian employees

Q. What has been the biggest transition for you since you’ve been away?

A. Lack of indoor plumbing.  And the realization that we are supporting the men and women that are here fighting and protecting our way of life.  They are eating and sharing the same confined base with us and what we do is in direct support of their mission.

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Q. Does the culture influence you on the base? If so, how?

A. Yes, there are individuals from the militaries of the coalition forces, the local nationals that work on the base, as well as citizens from other countries working for the contractors providing services to the military.  They are all interesting and they all have their own reasons for being here.  When I arrived, the only people I knew were the people I trained with for the deployment and some of the individuals that I communicated with prior to coming to Afghanistan

Q.  Have you formed any kind of relationship with the soldiers on your base?

A. Yes, about half of our staff in Northern Afghanistan is military, and the other two offices are about half military and we deal with them on a daily basis.  I talk to the Airmen and Soldiers everyday, part of my responsibilities include working with the soldiers and briefing new employees when they arrive and out-briefing and receiving feedback as they leave.  We discuss everyday work activities as well as their job back in the States, their families and where they are from.  My boss is a Lieutenant Colonel in the Air Force.

Sahate Ame Circle

Sahate Ame Circle

Q. What is the hardest thing been for you since you’ve been there?

A. Not being able to have a diversion from my routine.  Although I have traveled to other bases in Northern Afghanistan it would be nice to have a day or two to attend or participate in other activities.

Q.  Has your communication differed with your family at home?

A.  Somewhat, I am able to communicate almost on a daily basis.  Either through the Internet using Wifi or using the voice over IP office phones

Q. What is the first thing you’re looking forward to when you come home?

A. Seeing my family! Being able to go and do what I want, currently we work seven days a week and cannot leave the base.  We travel between bases either in airplanes or on helicopters only seeing outside the base from the air.